This year has been one for the books! I never in a million years imagined it would have ended up the way it has. I just started a new position at a new daycare at the beginning of the year and found out we were having a baby girl in July and very excited about it all!
Once COVID-19 made its way to us, everyone at work and around us starting freaking out and worried about what was about to happen. Once they shut schools down I started to worry, especially since I have kids and I was pregnant. Once March hit things went nuts. The day before my son’s fourth birthday, I was told to stay home and apply for unemployment. This was so hard on my son more than me because he was so excited to celebrate his birthday with his friends but he was not able to. We also had to cancel all birthday plans for him and just do a small very close family member party for him. I was very thankful that I was able to get unemployment through all of it, especially since we had nothing for a new baby.
I am lucky that my job has reopened for now and I am able to bring my kids with me.
Even with all the craziness and stress with being pregnant and having a baby through this pandemic, once she was born and laid on my chest everything about it went away.
I am pretty sure that if this did not happen I would have never gotten back into my blog, change my Instagram page to what I have always wanted to do, be a mom influencer, or even be in line for the director position at my job! I have also gotten back into fitness and have found a new love for it and I feel like if I was not laid off for those few months that I wouldn’t have gotten out there and gotten the courage to just go for things and see them through. I know Covid ruined a lot of things for a lot of people, but for me it did just the opposite. I am looking at it happening in a positive light instead of negative.
This year I had my daughter and have been able to watch Kendyn grow into a big brother that absolutely loves his sister and my family has been healthy and thriving. That is all such a blessing and I am very thankful!
Her birth story is completely different than with my first. I learned many other techniques to help from the first and I pretty much knew what to expect. It went so much smoother than before. My pregnancy and birth were both much easier this time around.
I was late this time around, my oldest came at 37 weeks and Quaytn came at 40 weeks and two days and I had to be induced.
Knowing this is the last time I will be pregnant and giving birth made me very emotional, but I am happy with her being the baby forever.
I was incredibly nervous about birth again because my first experience was not all rainbows and unicorns. The extreme pain and commotion in the birthing room is something I will never forget.
With COVID being around with this birth, my husband was the only person I could have in the room with me. In the end I am happy about that because it made the whole process a lot less stressful with less people in the room.
I think I am in labor.
Once I hit 37 weeks, I really thought she would come any day after that since by son came early.
Quaytn decided to be stubborn and not show any signs of entering the world early at all.
On July 20th, 2020 I was exactly 40 weeks to the day. I have done anything I could possibly think of to try to put myself into labor. That night I was having what I thought were contractions (I did not go through labor first with my son, my water broke first so I wasn’t sure what it really felt like)
I was timing them, and they got down to 5-8 minutes apart. I really did not want to have to wake my husband up and call my grandma to watch my son if it was just a false alarm, so I waited as long as I could until I could not take it anymore and I was nervous since the hospital is a 30 minute drive from our house. It was around 3 A.M when I finally decided to wake my husband up and call my grandma.
With it being the time COVID is around, we had to bring everything with us and in the hospital with us because once we got in, we were not allowed to leave and come right back inside for any reason.
Once we got there, they checked me in and monitored me for about three hours. I was having contractions and they said I was in early labor but since I was not dilating fast, they sent me home. I did tell them I did not dilate with my son on my own, but they said it did not matter and still sent me on my way. They did give me an incredibly low dose of Ambien to help me sleep for a couple hours once I got home since the contractions were keeping me up all night.
Back at home
It was around 7 in the morning or so when we got back home. We called my grandma to see if Kendyn could just hangout with her for a little longer so we could take a nap and she was fine with that. So, we had the air mattress in the living room, put on a movie and crashed hard for about 3 hours. My husband woke me up because my phone was ringing, and it was the hospital calling to schedule me to come in for an induction!
We scheduled it for that Wednesday morning which was less than two days away! We were so excited and nervous because we finally had a date that we would be meeting our baby girl.
We made sure that we spent all the time we could with Kendyn and took him to Scene 75 just us three for our last outing without a baby.
It is Induction Day!
July 22nd, 2020
The day is finally here! My induction was scheduled for 8:00 A.M. and I had planned to get up early, make a nice breakfast for everyone, and enjoy my last moments with Kendyn being the baby.
We didn’t get up with our alarm and had about 30 minutes to get up and ready. So I warmed up a breakfast sandwich, got our things, gave Kendyn lots of love and he made sure to give us juice and snacks in case we got hungry (my heart exploded).
We made it to the hospital around 7:40 A.M. Checked in and was greeted by our nurse that would be with us the whole time, and let me just say, she was AMAZING!
Once we were in the room, I put the beautiful hospital gown on and I had to get tested for COVID before she could start any meds or my iv. While we waited for my results to come back, we all three sat in the room talking about life and laughing, it was so nice.
It took my results about an hour to come back and it was negative. As soon as those came back my nurse started my iv and started the Pitocin around 9:50 A.M. My nurse was so amazing, she made sure I was comfortable the entire time and sat with us and just talked. She told us that her shift was over at 7 P.M. and we are going to have a baby before that.
She told us to try to take a nap and relax and she would be back around 11:30 A.M. to check how far along I am.
Well taking a nap and relax is easier said than done while in labor and in the hospital. So I just laid there, put headphones in and listened to calming music.
My contractions started getting bigger around 11:00 A.M. and the nurse came back in to check me, I was not dilating very quickly so she upped the Pitocin dosage. We then planned for my midwife to come in and break my water and then get the epidural. She had me sit up while we waited for my midwife to come in so we can move Quaytn down farther in the birth canal.
My midwife broke my water around noon, and I got my epidural after thar around 12:30 P.M. so I could try to relax more. After my epidural, I laid on my right side for a while, and I started to worry because I could still feel my contractions on my left side. I told my nurse I was feeling them, so she had me sit up to try to get the medicine to equal out on both sides. Before I sat up, she checked how far dilated I was, and I was between a 7 and 8.
Around 3 P.M. I told her I still felt my contractions on my left side, being the amazing nurse she is she called a doctor to come in and give me a half dose of lidocaine to help. Man let me tell you, it worked very well and fast!
I received the lidocaine around 3:10 P.M. and my nurse helped me lay on my left side. Once I laid down, I started having the constant feeling of having to push, even between contractions. I told my nurse about it and so she checked me again and I was fully dilated and ready to push!
She let my midwife know and had me do a couple practice pushes. Once my midwife got there, I started pushing around 3:46 P.M.
It was the most relaxing time. I know that sounds weird but my experience from my first one to this one, I would say this one was way better. It was only my husband, my nurse, my midwife, and one other nurse to help. In between contractions we were just talking and laughing, I know I said it a million times before but it was such an amazing experience.
I pushed for 17 minutes and we had our beautiful baby girl at 4:02 P.M. on July 22, 2020!
She was 8lbs. 3oz. and 20.75 inches long with a full head of hair!
We were only supposed to stay 24 hours after birth but she had higher levels of jaundice, so we had to stay an extra day until it leveled out.
We were able to leave the morning of the 24th around 9:30 A.M. and we were so excited for her to meet her big brother that has been anxiously waiting for her to come!
Her great grandma (Gigi) and Kendyn were the first two to meet her and they just could not get enough of her.
It seems like everyone makes sure to prepare for the baby by making sure your bags for the hospital are packed, the car seat is installed, and the nursery is ready. It is rare that we think about what mom will need after delivery. This list I have put together is what helped me with my son and it is what I will be doing when I have my daughter. With my son I had to do a lot of research since I was a new mom and had no idea what I needed. This list is not a pretty one but it is definitely an essential one!
Numbing Spray- I used before and will use again Dermoplast. This is what the hospital gave me with my son and this time I bought an extra one so I wont run out.
Peri-Bottle- It will sting a bit when you use the bathroom after birth. This bottle was a life savor! You simply fill the bottle with warm water and spray while using the bathroom to help with the sting.
Nipple Cream– This is a huge necessity for breastfeeding moms. I chose to use Earth Mama’s Organic Nipple Butter (You can find it below in the link to my amazon storefront.) It is natural and safe for baby, meaning you don’t have to worry about wiping it off before nursing. It is amazing to help soothe, moisturize, and protect sore or cracked nipples.
Breast pads- I have decided to use reusable this time, I feel like it will be easier and help on having to buy them all the time. You can find the link below to my amazon storefront to find them.
Padsicles- If you put witch hazel and aloe on a pad and freeze it, it will help with relief.
Nursing tanks/bras- These are amazing if you plan on breastfeeding, it makes it a lot easier to snap and unsnap the straps. I also have these in my amazon storefront.
Water and Snacks- This is so important and so easy to forget at the same time! The baby is taking most of your nutrients, you need to make sure your not getting dehydrated. Keep taking your prenatal and have water by you at all times. While breastfeeding, your appetite will grow, so make sure you have snacks near at all times.
Haakaa- I wish I knew about this with my first. This goes on your boob that you are not nursing on and will catch the letdown so you do not waste any milk. I did end up purchasing one for this time around so there will not be any wasted milk!
I hope you found this helpful! Please share with your expecting mama friends or postpartum mamas! I hope everyone has a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery and a quick and smooth recovery!
You are now in the homestretch, this is the time to make sure you have all your i’s dotted and t’s crossed. A lot of people think the third trimester just drags by but I honestly have thought it has gone by really fast with this pregnancy. I am 37 weeks today and they consider that full term! My first came the week of 37 weeks so I am making sure everything is together and ready this week just in case. I would be lying if I said I was ready and not worried at all. Honestly I am very nervous and anxious. I just hope everything goes smooth and with no issues. I have put together a list for the third trimester, things I have done and still need to do.
Even though this world is crazy right now, you still should throw a shower and celebrate your little one! It is a great way to get most of the things you will need for the baby.
Pack your hospital bag
This was a lot easier this time around. I was able to cut down a ton of items that I packed with my oldest and never needed. The hospital provides more than you would think for you and baby. I have a post where I talked about what items are essential and what ones were not if you want to go read that.
Purchase items you did not receive at shower
If there were any “must have” items that you have not purchased or received yet, you may want to finish purchasing them. If anything is not a “must have” then you can always wait until after the baby is here just in case someone buys it for you last minute or after your baby comes.
Pre-register with the hospital
If you did a tour at the hospital you are delivering, you may have already done this. With the pandemic going on, the hospitals are not doing them right now so you may have to do it online. If you don’t get it done before you go in, it’s no big deal you can still go through the process at the hospital.
Install car seat
You will need your car seat installed for the baby to be able to leave the hospital. Make sure you and your partner know how to get the car seat in and out of the car. When in doubt, you can always take it to your local fire station and see if they can show you how to do it.
Wash baby’s clothes and sheets
Once you have all of your baby’s clothes, sheets, blankets, etc. you will want to make sure they are all cleaned using baby detergent. I use either Dreft or Purex for baby.
Assemble baby gear
Go ahead and assemble any baby gear that you have. I have been doing this for the past couple weeks to make sure everything is put together by the time she makes her appearance so we don’t have to do it when she is here.
Make arrangements for other children/pets
Make sure you have talked to someone about watching your other children/pets while you are in the hospital.
Download a contractions app
You want to make sure you keep track of this so you don’t go to the hospital too soon and get sent home. The app will make it easy for you to keep track of the 5-1-1 or 4-1-1 rule. Most second time parents follow the 5-1-1 rule. If you are having contractions every 5 minutes (or 4) apart, lasting for 1 minute each, for an hour, start heading to the hospital.
Choose your pediatrician
If you have not chosen one yet, you should start looking hard now.
Prep for your postpartum needs
You will want to be comfortable at the hospital. Postpartum is crazy and a huge adjustment that will require some things that you may have never had stocked in your house before. If you can stay away from having to run errands with a newborn the first few weeks, this is what you would need.
Witch hazel pads
Stock the house with food/Essential items
Like I said before, it will make your life easier if you stock up on things you need before baby comes so you don’t have to run anywhere with your newborn as soon as you get home. Make sure you have dinners thought out, snacks, drinks, toilet paper, paper towels, etc.
Walk or workout
As long as your doctor says it is okay, keep working out and going for walks. Especially in this trimester, the more active you are the easier labor will be. It also helps in the end to help move baby down the birth canal faster. Giving birth is very exhausting mentally and physically so the more active you are during pregnancy the better the big day will be for you and baby!
That’s my list! I am sure there are a thousand more things that I could put on the list but at this point I am just making sure to check off the essentials since your little one will be here so soon!
You did it momma! You brought a beautiful miracle into this world.
I am guessing that you spent your entire pregnancy preparing for this exact moment. Even so, you are worried and overwhelmed. This world is crazy and seems too unfit for your baby. I get it, I am having the same feelings.
Obviously your story will be different from anyone else, but I wanted to write on some common experiences.
The ideal parent in your head does not exist. Honestly perfect parents just don’t exist. There are many parents that you can learn from and they can learn from you, You will never meet anyone who just has all of the answers you need. Everyone is just doing their best and doing what works for them and their family.
Having a baby is hard work. Newborns are adorable and exhausting. Lower your expectations of what you can accomplish everyday. Find a system that works for you and if anyone offers help, take them up on that offer!
Great mom friends are NOT competitive. Everyone has a little competitive nature in them. When you see a child hit a milestone before your child it can make you feel like you are not doing something right. Just remember that what you need are mom friends that cheer you and cheer you up. Surround yourself with women who are encouraging and you do the same!
You are going to be judged. No matter what you choose to give your baby or not give your baby, you are going to be judged for it. There will be people if you choose to breastfeed that are against it or give you weird looks if you are feeding your baby in public. I have dealt with that with my oldest and I am sure I will go through it with this baby as well. There will be no end to the judging, you just have to ignore it. As long as your baby is happy and healthy, then who cares.
Sleep when baby sleeps? HAHA! When someone tells me this, I just laugh. There is so much you can get done while baby is sleeping. Some days when my oldest was a newborn, I would get everything done for two days in one day and then try to nap. It was hard honestly because my brain just did not want to shut off thinking about everything else I could get done. Or just have some mommy time while baby is sleeping is amazing! The amount of sleep that you will learn to function on is crazy! Sleep while you can when you are pregnant. I have a four year old and another on the way, I love to relax and try to nap when I can.
You will learn to only use one hand for everything. You will become a master multitasker. Babies do not understand that their moms need to do other things as well. You will learn to do everything with one hand. This might make you laugh but it’s the truth, I have learned to do things with my nose and mouth as well. haha. Invest in a baby carrier! It will be a life savor I promise. Especially if you have more than one child.
You have so much to look forward to including: first words, crawling, standing on their own, walking, lots of kisses, bedtime stories and holidays. For now, snuggle with that beautiful baby and treasure this point in time!
Here I am at 31 weeks pregnant, thinking about what I should pack in my hospital bag this time around. I feel like with my oldest I over packed which is normal for me anyhow. So I have been doing some research on the necessities and I am going to try to stick with just those. I don’t plan on actually packing until around 33-34 weeks, but I do like to get the items ahead of time so I know I have everything.
Birth plan- I personally don’t have one and I didn’t have one for my oldest, but if you do make sure to make copies and pack them.
Toiletries- Don’t forget these! These items include: hairbrush, toothbrush, toothpaste, hair ties, shampoo, conditioner, loofah, body wash, chap stick, deodorant, glasses/contact lenses, flip flops for shower.
Comfortable clothes- You will want loose fitting clothes/ PJ set.
If you plan on breastfeeding, you will want to pack these items: nursing pad, nursing bra and shirt, and nipple cream. (your nipples will appreciate you)
If you want to bring your own pillows and bath towel. The towels in the hospital are not extremely nice.
Car seat- You have to have your car seat to take your baby home. I recommend bringing it in with you, especially if you are having your baby during this pandemic, they might not let you go back out to get it.
Going home outfit- I am planning on packing two outfits just to make sure. Also packing a hat and a couple bows.
Pediatricians contact info- The doctors and nurses will ask you for this, just make sure you have it handy.
Do not bring diapers! They will have them for you. I am using a specific kind of wipes so I am going to pack wipes. If you are not specific then don’t pack either.
Lots of snacks! You never knonw how long you will be in labor. Also it will be nice to have some snacks for yourself once you are able to eat again.
Pillow and Blanket- If you do not want to use the thin and small hospital ones.
General Entertainment- Like I said before, you don’t know how long the process is going to be so bring something to keep you occupied.
Change of clothes
Now that you are all packed, it will be much easier to grab the bags and get to the hospital quicker. I wish all the mommas to be a healthy and safe pregnancy and delivery!
What are some other items that you have packed or plan on packing?
This week marks 11 weeks left until we meet your sweet little face. Time is flying by, I am excited but also worried for you to enter this world during a pandemic. We are taking all of the precautions to make sure we are all safe.
When I saw those two lines on that test, I was so thrilled I could not believe it! I started crying from happiness, I immediately got your brother Kendyn ready and we walked to the library to get a book about being a big brother so we could tell your daddy the news when he got home from work that evening.
At 10 weeks on new years eve, we found out that you were a girl and we were so thrilled! Mommy is so excited to dress you up in cute outfits and bows!
I dread the day when life knocks you down because I can’t protect you from the world. Baby girl, Just remember to be who you want to be and never be afraid to alter your path. Even though I cannot promise you everything, I can promise to show you love in all it’s forms. I promise you are going to be born into a house full of love.
Yes, you are the baby, but that just means we have been waiting longer for you. Your siblings love you so much already, Kendyn is so excited to be able to teach you all kinds of things. He asks me everyday if he can teach you different things and he loves talking to you in my belly. You have four siblings that will help teach you how to crawl, walk, talk, give hugs, kisses and how to make your dad melt.
Even though the house is a mess, and the dishes are dirty, we promise that the kisses are plentiful, the hugs are warm, and you are very loved! I hope that makes you feel important, protected, and beautiful.
I will miss feeling you move around in my tummy and know that you are safe in there, but I am so excited to meet you!
Am I really already out of my second trimester? The time has flown by during this pregnancy and I have no idea how, hah. Today marks my first day in my third trimester and the day I go take my glucose test.
Everyone has a different experience and every pregnancy is different. I know between this one and my first, they are night and day!
My second trimester has been by far the best weeks! I had energy (until the last week) and I could actually eat again. As I sit here and write this she is currently doing flips into my ribs. Thanks baby girl! This was by far my favorite thing about this trimester. With this pregnancy I was able to feel her a lot earlier than I did with my son, and my husband and son were actually able to feel her move sooner than we did with my son. She is a very active baby, WAY more active than her brother was in the womb! It does not matter what I am doing, she loves letting me know she’s in there and I am 100% okay with that!
Here are some symptoms I had in the second trimester.
Leg Cramps/Tightness- These started the later in the day and I just felt like I couldn’t stretch good enough. I would have my husband rub them and it would help but come back a couple minutes later.
Back Pain- I had back pain that started in the late first trimester and it went away for a couple weeks but came back with force at the end of my second trimester. I have been cleaning like crazy every since this pandemic started, and my lower back hates it.
Sleep, What is that?- I use three pillows at night to help get me comfortable. The bigger baby girl has gotten, the harder it is to sleep all through the night. Like I said before, she is quite the kicker and flipper. She will wake me up multiple times a night with a swift kick to the rib or bladder, then I have to get up to use the bathroom.
Cravings?- This is so weird to me because I have not had any cravings with this pregnancy and with my oldest it was everyday I just had to have something.
Bleeding Gums/Nose- This is a very common symptom in pregnancy. With my oldest I did not know that and being a first time mom I took myself to the hospital one night because my nose would not stop bleeding and I thought something was wrong. Yes, this is a common symptom so do not freak out like I did!
In all honestly, all the symptoms that come with being pregnant are not so bad when you feel that bundle of joy moving around. It is the best feeling in the world, even when they kick your ribs. I know I will miss it dearly when it is all over.
I cannot believe that in 12 weeks or less we will be meeting our little girl!
Now that you found out that you are expecting, I know one of the first things women think about is wondering what the gender will be. I know with both of my pregnancies I liked to look at different old wives tales just for fun to see what they said about what the gender might be. There are so many and a lot of them are just silly, but it is fun to just try them out and be curious. I have decided to gather up five old wives tales and put them side by side with both of my pregnancies.
1. If you are carrying high, it’s a girl!
Now I know there is no scientific reason that this is true, but with both of my pregnancies this is the case.
With my first, who was a boy, I carried him low and with this pregnancy I am having a girl and she is definitely high.
She is always playing on my ribs, haha.
2. Lots of morning sickness? It’s a girl!
I think this is true with me, this pregnancy I did have morning sickness the whole first trimester, to the point that I lost weight.
With my son, I never had any kind of morning sickness and never had an issue with weight gain or eating.
3. Craving salty foods? It’s a boy! Craving sweet foods? It’s a girl!
This one is silly in my opinion.
With my son I craved just about anything sweet or salty. With this pregnancy, I am five days away from my third trimester and I have not had any cravings at all.
4. Low fetal heartrate? boy. High fetal heartrate? girl.
Some people believe that if the heartrate is above 140 bpm then it is a girl, and if it’s under 140 bpm then it’s a boy.
With my oldest his was between 140-160 bpm and with my daughters, hers has been between 160-170 bpm.
The heartrate can change from one movement to the next, no matter what the gender is.
5. Partners weight gain
This old wives tale says, if your partner gains weight with you then that could be a sign that you are having a girl.
This was not true for me.
With my oldest, who is a boy, my husband and I gained a ton of weight. With this pregnancy, who is a girl, neither one of us have gained a lot of weight.
I am curious if anyone else had the same or different outcomes with these, and what other ones have you checked out?
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With everything going on in the world right now, having a virtual shower is a great option to still bring all of your friends and family together digitally to celebrate the expecting mother to be. I know that this is very emotionally and anxious time for all pregnant women right now, including me, and it is very hard not to think about what will happen. Having a virtual shower will help the mom to be feel loved and supported during these times.
Virtual showers have been around for awhile for other reasons including: bedrest, family that is too far away, or mother’s/guest health.
What forum could you use to have the virtual shower?
Thank goodness technology has came as fat as it has, there are many options for you to choose from to have your shower. Zoom, Facebook Live, Google Hangout, and Skype are some options you can use for your shower.
Skype: This is very well known all around the world. Many people already have an account, and you can have up to fifty people for free on the chat.
Facebook: You can make a private group for family and friends to keep in touch. Mom-to-be can share videos, links, and photos.
Zoom: This is big with video conferencing especially at this time. There might be a lot of people who do have an account already because of everyone working from home and doing online schooling. The free plan you can get from them includes video conferencing for up to one hundred people!
Google Hangout: This one has been around for awhile and many people do have google accounts. You can video call with up to ten people.
Who should host the virtual shower?
I noticed that a lot of moms to be will host their own virtual shower, but you do not have to. During this pandemic I know a lot of us did not plan on even thinking about switching to a virtual shower, so you probably already had someone hosting one for you. Just talk to them about switching to a virtual shower and you can even plan it together if you want.
Are virtual baby showers difficult for guests who are not tech-savvy or elder relatives?
Absolutely not! Once you have it set up, you just send your guests a link to log into the video call, Easy peasy!
What gifts can guests buy, and how do they get it to you?
They can buy anything they want. A lot of registries are online now anyways. Guests from all over can buy something off of your registry and have it sent to your house. My favorite registry is Babylist. You can add items from any store and it is all in one registry and link.
What do you do at a virtual shower?
You can do a lot at a virtual shower! Some mom’s play games, virtual toast, diaper raffle if anyone sent you diapers. Guests are asked to send their gifts directly to the mom and she opens them during the shower, so everyone can see what she received.
Do I still make invitations?
You can send out e-invitations or regular ones through the mail. If you choose to send an e-invitation, there are a couple sites that you can use to personalize your invitations.
Canva: They have a free editing platform to create personalized e-invitation with photos that you can send via email, WhatsApp, or text.
Etsy: They have some great e-invitation options that you can instantly download and customize.
I hope this post helps some moms-to-be out there worried about what they are going to do about a shower. We are all in this together! If you have any other ideas or if you have had your shower virtually, I would love to hear what you have done.
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