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Stepmom Stigmas That Need Put Away

Let’s be honest, there are many stigmas that go around the role of “stepmom.” From the evil stepmother in Cinderella, to the evil Queen in Snow White.

We can’t seem to escape the assumptions that are made about us, and it drives me crazy! I was doing some research on different roles and what people think about stepmoms that we can debunk once and for all, and here they are.

We knew what we were signing up for

Honestly, you really have no idea what you are signing up for. I myself grew up in a blended family and I truly had no idea what I was “signing” up for. I also hate that it is called “signing up,” it is parenting, not some sports team. Parenting is hard whether you are biological, stepparent, adopted, etc.

We want to replace the mom

We want to be the stepmom, not the mom! The bond that children have with their mom is truly unbreakable, it is not our bond to have. Mom, our goal is to stand alongside you not replace you. We want to form our own bonds not take what is yours. I love co parenting, we all get along and it makes it so much easier for everyone involved.

We only care about our stepkids during our time with them

Stepparents are still FULL-TIME PARENTS. Our love for our stepchildren isn’t limited to the hours they are at our homes. Being a stepmom does not mean we turn on and off our love for them when they come and go every week.

That honestly breaks my heart when people think that, I love my stepchildren no matter what, they mean the world to me just as much as my biological two do! I don’t get every update or daily phone calls but I do miss them when they are not with us just like I would with my other two.

We only care about our partners

This is where I go back to all those movies that make stepmoms look like evil people. Okay, yes we do love our partners and care about them a lot. We fell in love with them, but we also fell for their children. Being a stepmom does not mean you are selfish, Stepfamilies are a package deal and we accepted the whole thing! Even those stepmoms who have a rough relationship with their stepchildren have love for them and want what is best for them because of the love they have for their partner.

If you are a stepmom or know someone who is, I would love to hear what other ones you have heard about in the comments.

husbands, Uncategorized

Things we do that annoy our husbands

So I was thinking it was only fair to ask my husband and have other ladies as their husbands what we do that annoy them.

These responses are pretty hilarious and the ones my husband said are very true haha.

“Taking forever to make appointments, especially because I don’t want to call.”

Why is this a recurring complaint haha. I am the one to call and make appointments as well. Anyone else?

“Move things around the house every few weeks.”

This is not me lol, my husband is the one who likes to move things around.

“I ‘baby’ our daughter”

I mean, what mom doesn’t baby their kids?

“I’m untidy apparently.”

ME TO GIRL, ME TO!

“Babying our son and not remembering things.”

Well, again what mom doesn’t baby their kids? HELLO! it’s called mom brain lol.

“Moan or get grumpy”

We are allowed to be grumpy lol

“I have to have something that is expensive and then I only use it a handful of times.”

This is true, I can’t deny this statement

“I pout about a lot”

Yes, again can’t deny lol

“I want things right now and if I don’t get my way I pout.”

I am trying to work on this, OKAY? lol

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This was fun to do, thank you for everyone who joined in with me so that I could make these blog posts.

Is there anything else you do that annoys your husband? I would love to read about them in the comments.

I want to say thank you to all of my followers for all of the feedback and enjoying my posts, I really could not do this without all of you!

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Things our husbands do that drive us nuts!

I decide to put up an Instagram story this past week about my husband leaving socks laying all around the house instead of just putting them in the laundry hamper, and I asked everyone if their husbands do things that drive them nuts also, and 88% of them said yes and 12% said no. I am not 100% convinced that the 12% was not fibbing haha.

After I did that poll, I decided to do something else and ask you what exactly are the things they do that drive you crazy.

Let me just say that many of them are about those damn socks!

For privacy reasons, I will not be showing the name of the ladies that responded.

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“Every night when he gets home from work, he takes off his socks wherever he sits down first and just leaves them there.”

“He leaves plates laying around, hair in the sink, and socks are everywhere!”

“When he puts dishes in the sink when the dishwasher is right there with dirty dishes in it already!”

“Leaving the washing pile in the bathroom, never puts milk back in the fridge, and socks on the floor.”

“Beard hair everywhere…Not putting things back where they belong. Being a man child.” Laughing face!

“He likes to leave pairs of socks on the side of the bed.” Laughing face!

“Just leaves hats EVERYWHERE”

“Clothes everywhere”

“When he goes to the bathroom to “poop” and is in there FOREVER!”

“Leaving his dirty plate on the side of the sink instead of putting it INSIDE the sink.”

“Loading the dishwasher wrong”

“Leaving milk out after making food or drinks”

These all cracked me up! I hope you got a kick out of them as well, and if your husband does things that were not mentioned here, I would love to read them in the comments.

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read my blog, I greatly appreciate it!